There are so many rites of passage when becoming a mother – the late nights, the giggles, and all the diapers! But when it comes to strapping on the disposables, diapers are best left for your baby – not for you.
There are a lot of conversations about motherhood and incontinence. Self-help expert Rachel Hollis even bragged about having ruined her pants after being unable to contain her leakage, and there are a million tropes and jokes about moms leaking while laughing, jumping or sneezing. Sadly, incontinence has become a rite of passage for moms – a representation of their sacrifice for the children that they love so much.
While commiserating with other moms about this often embarrassing condition can help women feel less alone, it has had the unintended consequence of making light of a serious medical condition. Mom’s attitudes towards incontinence and leakage range from embarrassed acceptance, to wearing it like a badge of honour. Many women don’t realize that incontinence is treatable, and that they don’t have to accept a life in diapers!
Incontinence, aside from being a medical condition, has a huge impact on women’s self esteem and their ability to enjoy everyday life. Imagine not wanting to laugh, or play with your children for fear that you may leak? For many women, this also contributes to many complicated feelings about their new bodies, and can cause them to avoid intimacy with their partners, and a sense of isolation.
Until now, the main solution given to women has been to wear a diaper or pad. These products have been given patterns, a ‘sophisticated’ design, and clever branding, but the fact remains that diapers are not a long-term treatment, and undermine women’s legitimate concerns about her health. Instead of sweeping the issue under the rug and suffering in silence, women deserve to receive the medical care they need!
If you’re a new or experienced mom who is concerned about incontinence after having children, just know that you are not alone, and that there is a life beyond diapers for you. By reaching out to your family doctor or urogynecological professional and seeking help, you’re taking the best step you can for your health, well being, and self esteem in getting back to you!
As moms, we spend so much time taking care of others, and it can feel like we have to be strong and suffer in silence or ignore our own health issues. But by being your best, happiest, healthiest self, you’ll be better able to live, laugh, and love with your family.